I am an introvert.
From my life on social media you probably would never guess.
I can be very extroverted with my tribe, but only my tribe. In fact there was a time that I had to have anti-anxiety drugs and wine before I went into social situations. That was before I learned the power our minds have and how to control it, but it did happen nonetheless.
I am sharing this with you because I know what a prison it can feel like. I mean I WANT to go to the party... but getting my mind and body to get me there is another story. Can you relate?
It isn't that I don't want to be social, it just really shuts me down... or it did.
Until I learned a little secret.
It wasn't me it was them. Them being the people I was hanging around. They weren't my people, so I had to send my representative out into the world to try to be who they needed or wanted me to be, which of course never worked. It was a vicious cycle, and one I had no idea I was in, let alone how to get out of it.
Then I got sick with cancer and my whole world changed.
I woke up.
Plain and simple... life is too damn short to try to be someone you aren't. Those quotes that go around the internet daily saying "you are the sum of the people you hang around" are beyond true. One day I saw that quote and looked at who I had spent the prior 10 years of my life with. I took inventory.
I was surprised to realize I had to clean house. Most of the people were miserable and unhappy so they spent their time talking about how other people were living their lives wrong. I remember sitting in a conversation after my cancer with some friends and realizing how miserable and unhappy everyone was. The whining and complaining and finger pointing was just too much.
I haven't seen those friends since.... haven't had any anxiety pills since either.
I made a list of everything I wanted to be, and I started looking for those type of people.
I made a list of everything I liked to do, and I started doing those things.
Next thing I knew I had an entire new group of uplifting friends that liked all the same things I do!
It came down to one decision. I didn't "break up" with any friends or have any falling out... I simply invested my time in those that invested in themselves. Cuz we treat others how we treat ourselves, and that is a fact. So I decided to treat myself the way I wanted to be treated, and when I interact with others, I give them what I want. Love and acceptance. That is all that is welcomed here. I don't care your age, race, weight, or gender... I care that you want to be a better you.
If you are looking for a place to start... and are ready to have nothing but positive uplifting souls in your life. Hit me up. I have a huge network of just that. We will encourage you to take daily steps in loving yourself, by eating right, moving your body, getting personal development, and helping you find your tribe of "you's". You ready? firstname.lastname@example.org